The dumb comments people make about twins

I admit I was one of those people who thought it must be interesting to have twins. Twins do run in my family, so I always knew it was a possibilty. It was a whole different story when I got prenant with my first son. I was so relieved when we went in for the ultrasound and there was only 1 baby!

Fast-forward 5 years and we found ourselves in a very different position. Identical twin boys!! More on that some other time. What I wasn't prepared for were all the comments you have to endure as a mom of multiples. I'm not talking about the constant "are they twins" or the constant "are they both boys?" I actually had a cashier at the grocery store sneer at me, "they look awful close in age". All I could say was, "yep, 6 minutes apart." I'm not sure what she was implying.

It's amazing how many time people ask if twins run in my family. The short answer is yes, but the truth is, identical twins are not genetically passed down. Fraternal twins are and my mom is one (she has a twin brother). Identical twins, for those who don't know, come from 1 egg that splits. Fraternal twins occur when 2 eggs are fertilized instead of one. Identical twins are, you guessed it, identical and can't be boy/girl. They can only be of the same sex.

But I digress, the point is the sheer amount of people that ask the same, sometimes private questions. What does it matter to you if I took fertility drugs or not (I didn't). Why would you care if I had a c-section or vaginally (the latter). Why would you care if I had drugs during labor ( I didn't). Why would you ask if we are done having kids? (still unsure)

Also, what is the point of making comments like "Better you than me," or "Boy you have your hands full." I guess those comments weren't so bad until I heard them up to 10 times when I took my kids to the grocery store. and what do you say to a stranger when they come uo and tell you their gret nephew's mom's cousin's daughter has twins? Because I have twins, I should care?! All the while one baby is screaming because he wants out of the cart and the other one is throwing items out of the cart and all over the floor. Seriously!!

Don't get me wrong, I love my twins. I love that they get attention. Sometimes it would be nice to not feel like I have to entertain complete strangers with personal stories about my pregnancy/labor and my life since then.